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 By: Annie Meraj Kidwai 

 Human is a complex creature of personality, adequacy of thought process and habits. It is not  irrelevant to say that our habits create us and develop our lives or the process of evolution. Our thoughts are inter-related with our daily habits and responsible for the specie of homo sapiens.  As the time had progressed and so do the advancement of thought and knowledge with  upgradation, the specie evolved but in an overly complex form. The human psychology deals with  understanding of human personality, thought process and intelligence.  Intelligence is a word with uniqueness in its existence. It is not possible to generalize intelligence for  its functionality. Whether taking references from Dr. Howard Gardener’s theory of multiple intelligence or Daniel Goleman’s theory of Emotional Intelligence, it is evident that human  intelligence can vary the definitions of its functionality. Emotional intelligence predefines the achievements of goals, targets, or ambitions. The hardwired  times are never ending processes in the human lifespan. A professional, a college student, children, or homemakers, we need to give a second thought about the halt during the journey of  achievements. We are skilled, we are talented, we have the ability to perform but the halt seems  unending and creates ruckus in the journey. The balance is especially important here to understand, the control of your own life. The process of  emotional maturity and decision-making power during weak times is how I define Emotional  Intelligence. 

 But the question here arises again. How to skill up one’s Emotional  Intelligence? 

 #1 Introspection – In Psychology, Introspection is defined as  understanding and evaluating one’s mental state and examine one’s  feelings in a particular situation.  It is a great practice to keep a check on one’s conscious and interpreting the flaws in achieving goals. Whether you  are in any situation of your life, Introspection gives wings to balance emotions. 

#2 Communicate – Communication skill is an art not only to convince people for your objectives  but communicate what is difficult with ease and accuracy. A table talk can help with building  relationships, improves inter-personal skills and a respect to your decision making. Great leaders  don’t command, they discuss. An educated discussion brings enlightenment to the problem and  ability to improve the inner thought process. 

 #3 Self Esteem – A self esteem of a human being is  an extremely powerful tool of overall personality. As  per Maslow, Self Esteem is one of the human need that  is required for growth and human development. It is to  have confidence in your abilities and determined to achievements. High self-esteem is about  balancing oneself between achievements and criticism. 

 #4 Attitude - An attitude of positive reinforcement, leadership, or self-development to enhance the balance of emotions and feelings. We feel extremely put down when we find ourselves in the  situation of criticism or analysis. The attitude and understanding of self, leads for a successful path  and learning from the failures by maintaining the balance in relation with decision making power.

 The emotional balance in an individual is attained through various  experiences in life. So, to understand self, it is evident to explore around you. Travel, socialize and communicate. We react when we evaluate situations from a single perspective, a perspective which is not  thoroughly researched or analyzed. Hence, thinking out of the box and not being condemnatory to  people or situations helps us to emotionally mature ourselves